This blog is a collation of individual interviews - please click the read more below to access them
Online dating has been around for more than 20 years, but has exploded in recent years and potentially become a necessity due to a pesky virus that has way too many living in silos. This has stopped one of the most natural processes from taking place. Coming together and meeting new people. Where has all the dating gone? Now, it seemed, life was more about ticking boxes and working out what you wanted, what you liked and didn't like, and finding someone who fitted that picture. The algorithm would do all the hard work for you!
But it seems it is not quite that simple. Here you will find a series of interviews that share the varied experiences that come from online dating. The online-dating Compendium - Our Compendium of Love.
Clearly this is but a peek into the world of online dating, there are many diverse experiences missing, however, what has been shared here will sound and feel familiar regardless of perceived differences.
Enormous thanks to my wonderful interviewees - every one of them so willing to share their experiences of online dating. We experiences from teens to 70s!
Dating seems to have changed. It is not just about the restrictions and the need for more online interaction, even before that, there was a sense that you shouldn't commit to a relationship too early because we might miss out on something 'better'. That better seems to mean playing the field but always searching for 'the one'. Pictures galore of what we think 'the one' is and all the while there is no true connection being looked for or found.
This is a two part blog on relationships and exclusivity. I am starting with exclusivity because that is what triggered the realisation for me that dating had changed, and my interest to discover in the way we date now.
What I have discovered is a sense that there is a push-pull between the connection we are looking for and the fear of being alone that makes us accept the destructive games and 'settle' for a crumb of attention rather than the connection we truly know we all want and deserve.
I love how these women share some top tips for setting standards and knowing your self-worth way before you meet someone.
Meet Hannah, Marika, Shelley and Rosie. 4 slightly different perspectives.
Stay in the Loop with Lucy is back recording and what's to come is going to knock your socks off!
Coming up any day now is an audio that was started by a collaboration with The Post where there was just so much to share about our dating scene and what we class as a relationship and love. The interviews build on some of our previous interviews and just highlight that we are really living such a reduced version of the Love we all know should be in our relationships.
Here are links to some of the previous audios
Communication in Relationships
Decency and respect in Relationships
Gay relationships and Same Sex Marriage
Intimacy - Up close and Personal
Time to Love Unconditionally
The Power of Love and the Heart
If you want to read some of the earlier articles from the post - check them out here
Sara Harris from Living Stillness and founder of Follow Your Flow explains how our body has a cycle which has different seasons just like the seasons around us. If you want more information about the different quality and stages of the cycles, check out Sara's amazing and programs through Follow Your Flow. She also has audios and blogs that can support a deeper relationship with your cycle - enjoy all the website has to offer!
Evil and hate stick with you, but love sticks with you even more
The confusion and unease around initial changes to work practices meant these women had to address the stress and reassess how to make decisions. There are also some amazing insights for raising girls in the future - if we can show our girls that you are who you are in your essence and that can't be defined or boxed (by a profession or a title) they are then prepared for everything that comes.
The more I kept things simple, the simpler the decisions became
Lucy Dahill is the presenter of Stay in the Loop with Lucy, she has a passion for offering people the platform to share their voice. Young, old or somewhere in between we all have wisdom to share if we trust our hearts over our heads.