How much does shame influence the decisions we make and the behaviours we have taken as our normal? Jean Gamble talks us through shame and regret and teases out the different types of shame - toxic, functional and vicarious shame. What if there is a way to re-frame our thinking? Get snug as a bug in a rug and perhaps a pen and paper - you may want to take notes!
The show today is an up close and personal with study – the stress, the anxiety, the need – and perhaps most importantly, the why. A fundamental question has to be why are we studying and who are we studying for? If we have a family or are studying and working full or part time there are challenges inherent in juggling those commitments and responsibilities. There is a level of support we need to bring to ourselves in order to offer the space and perspective to work effectively without overriding the communication from our bodies and making ourselves sick. There is nothing intelligent about choosing dysfunctional behaviours! Join Lucy as she shares some of the things she learnt the hard way!
My guests today are Annette Baker and Gabrielle Caplice and together we look at how fear has become part of the fabric of our upbringing and means we struggle to open ourselves up in relationship. We look at what the impact of that might be and how we can support ourselves and each other to be ok with making mistakes and speaking up in life.
The pressure to perform, the pressure to provide means fathers can be under extraordinary pressure, add to this being a farmer and the income being dependent on the cycles of nature and it is clear to see the repercussions of the drought are not likely to go away quickly. Therefore supporting our farmers to take a realistic look at work practices and supporting them to the next step is part of a whole family approach.
Today Chris Iffland tells us first hand what life is like as a 5th generation farmer, Neil McWhannell talks about the Rotary Club of Wahroonga initiative to support the farmers, Hugh Burne our second farmer tells us about some of the infrastructure he has put in place that is supporting both his farm and his neighbours premises. Lastly United Tradies Chris Saville will be sharing his new project and helping our farmer Chris on the farm!
Have you ever considered the way we live could be part and parcel of our medicine? I am sure you have. What about smoking - we know it is not good for our health, we even have science to back that statement up, but did we need that proof, we knew it already didn't we? So how much deeper does this inner knowing of what our body likes and doesn't like go, and could it be a relationship that actually supports us to take a more responsible body to our doctor thereby supporting doctors health as well as personal and community health budgets?
Join Lucy as she talks to Eunice Minford, a Consultant General Surgeon who has, through a personal relationship with her own health and practice, re-discovered the blessing of working with Esoteric Medicine alongside Conventional Medicine as a marriage for more empowering health outcomes.
Katie Walls and Donna Gianniotis share with us the details of their one day retreat offering a fresh way to approach breast cancer care. Other presenters on the retreat are past interviewees on the show Jean Gamble and Michelle Crowe so the quality of this retreat is assured! In this episode we consider how we speak to and treat women with a diagnosis of breast cancer and if the sympathy they get is really what they want or if there is a different way to support them. Also, who do we ask for support? Have we considered who has capacity to support emotionally and physically - it may be a mixture of services, friends and family rather than all in one person. Further resources and links available below.
Pain is debilitating, it affects 1 in 5 Australian adults and gets more prevalent as we get older... increasing to 1 in 3 adults over the age of 65. So this show is a must for anyone working with chronic pain who wants to consider how they can support themselves in their day to day. Physiotherapist Kate Greenaway and Psychotherapist Jean Gamble rock the airwaves with some very practical advice from their own experiences and from their years of practice working with clients experiencing chronic pain.
2 good falls of rain in 2 years in Gulargambone - "the grass is dead, the stock is gone or in small paddock, it is an eerie look, an eerie feel". Walgatt have been in drought for 6 years - Only 1 crop in 6 years which means low income, no life, no extra fuel, lots of depression due to not being able to provide and produce, suicide. The worst drought in NSW in 100 years.
Yet this is not our backyard so why should a local radio station in Sydney pay attention? ... Because we are each others brothers and sisters, because farmers are the food bowl of Australia and because we must if we are to avert one of the primary Australian industries from being undervalued and abused.
My guest is Carolyn Lyons OAM shares how city dwellers could make space to understand "the great diversity, the great pain, the great triumphs that farmers go through" so we can engage our politicians and policy makers, shop for the food that is on our table in a responsible way and pay attention to the conversations and policies we may have glanced over before our eyes were opened.
"We must remember the word community - the coming together of people with like mind"
If you think we have managed to open a conversation then please share with farmers so they know we care and with politicians, family and friends so we can each make a difference to the people who have dedicated themselves to sustain an industry which has long been ignored.
"Let's make agriculture sexy - that would help put us higher up the agenda"
Farmers on the land are very simple rain makes them smile
Robyn Jones, Tony Sambell and Stephen Gammack were my guests this week to talk about toxic masculinity. What was clear by the end of this show is this is a conversation that goes beyond gender and is about the small things we brush over, the small elements of abuse we ignore till they become normalised and accept till we have an 'extreme' case which ends up being front page news. All too often it them becomes a 'gender' issue with two sides drawn and no true way forward. There has to be a better and more loving way to be with each other.
I feel very honoured to have been able to facilitate this show.
Lucy Dahill is the presenter of Stay in the Loop with Lucy, she has a passion for offering people the platform to share their voice. Young, old or somewhere in between we all have wisdom to share if we trust our hearts over our heads.