Parents are the people children are supposed to be able to trust the most not to hurt them and yet all too often they are the people whose behaviour causes the deepest wounds that can take years to heal. Mary Jo McVeigh knows this all too well. She is the CEO and founder of Cara House in Sydney, a place where children, parents and families are offered space to heal from the impacts of trauma and abuse. Mary Jo is such a bright, honest and engaging woman and this clearly comes across in this interview. This could have been a hard interview to do or a hard interview to listen to but I can only tell you it is filled with honesty, love and some amazing tips for us as parents and engaged members of our community. It takes a village to raise a child and therefore the more responsible and accountable we can each be for what we bring to our own lives the more we can offer those around us.
Elkan Spiller has brought us a gem of a film in 'L'Chaim to Life!'. It is a touching, witty and haunting documentary about his cousin Chaim Lubelski, a true 'Mench', and how war affects us from one generation to another "It is like a big cloud that hangs over us" and is logical for those who experienced the trauma first hand but the consequences are clearly thrown to the next generation as their expression of love and ability to speak honestly about the abuse that was experienced is measured by what keeps them safe from their continuing perceived danger.
The film asks us to question the deeper intergenerational effect of war and shows how one man found that his purpose at that time in his life was to offer a reflection of love to his mother and others who had experienced such hate and pain. There is much we can learn from Chaim and it is easy to understand why Elkan felt it was part of his life’s purpose to bring this story to a wider audience.
Do we have a picture of what intimacy is or isn't? Do we measure how intimate we are with different people depending on their relationship with us? "Of course!" I may hear you say but I would like you to suspend that indignation for an hour and listen to us unpack the possibility that we may have more to learn and understand about intimacy and it is so much more that sexual intimacy.
If you are a few weeks in to a new resolution or commitment to change a pattern of behaviour you want to embrace and are struggling to let go of the old patterns, or perhaps you have people of any age in your life who have challenging or unwanted behaviours that are impacting on you, then this is the show for you! Tanya Curtis a Behavioural Specialist talks to Lucy Dahill about lasting behaviour change. Whether you are a parent or not, this episode will change the way you view your own behaviour as well as the behaviour of those around you.
Has the art of appreciation been reduced to a functional necessity as opposed to a foundational part of our day to day? Hear from a number of people who have considered how this simple choice to appreciate who they are and what they bring in life changes things on a profound level.
It only takes one person to connect with another person and to have an impulse to support a wider community for magic to happen. The Friends of Mount Colah community group have done just that! Listen to Jan Forbes and Mariko Smith share how they participate in a community group with no other purpose that to close a gap which left vulnerable people feeling alone. Find out how you can get involved in local events or set up a community group in your local area.
With such a large increase in stories about sexual, verbal, emotional and financial abuse, with bullying growing as an issue faced by our youth and adults alike, I couldn't hold this episode back any longer. Today my guests are Annette baker and Gabe Caplice who share with us some of the insights they have gleaned from their years of couples and individual counselling.
There is a clear knowing for Jeff Garland that it is possible to go back to work after post traumatic stress leave because he did it. He now knows there are some safeguards that need to be in place and some logical support from superiors that could alleviate much of the trauma experienced by police officers and frontline workers.
What is your Party Plan? Join Dusana and Tenee two members of the Future Problem Solving Team as they share with us their project called Wise Decisions all about safe party planning. Role modelling of alcohol use and parties by adults and parents also came up as a hot topic. well worth a listen! To see the top tips for having and going to parties below as well as links to useful websites.
Ray Karam worked as a police officer in Sydney Central, Redfern and in country towns in Northern NSW. An accumulation of traumatic experiences led to Ray leaving the police force to seek support and rebuild his life. Ray shares his inspiring story, what helped him to rebuild from the grass roots up in order to support others who may have experienced similar trauma.
Lucy Dahill is the presenter of Stay in the Loop with Lucy, she has a passion for offering people the platform to share their voice. Young, old or somewhere in between we all have wisdom to share if we trust our hearts over our heads.