Have you considered how often we hide who we truly are behind a mask of humour? Could it be that this strategic manoeuvre to keep ourselves safe is what locks us away to be even more fearful of being ourselves in the world? Allow me to introduce Philip Hills to you - you will get to know him better when he publishes his book but till then... a sneak preview to the process of writing a book when you are trying to capture your life - and then some. I met Philip at a party... he stole my tiara... I don't think I have said that about anyone else but it was a moment that resulted in the most engaging conversation over dinner. How could I keep that opportunity to just me, when I have the opportunity to share Philip with all of you.
This interview showed me, once again, how humour can be a mask we wear that hides who we truly are and how complicated it can then be to find ourselves again behind that mask when life calls us to be more true to the gem we always were
This blog is a collation of individual interviews - please click the read more below to access them
Online dating has been around for more than 20 years, but has exploded in recent years and potentially become a necessity due to a pesky virus that has way too many living in silos. This has stopped one of the most natural processes from taking place. Coming together and meeting new people. Where has all the dating gone? Now, it seemed, life was more about ticking boxes and working out what you wanted, what you liked and didn't like, and finding someone who fitted that picture. The algorithm would do all the hard work for you!
But it seems it is not quite that simple. Here you will find a series of interviews that share the varied experiences that come from online dating. The online-dating Compendium - Our Compendium of Love.
Clearly this is but a peek into the world of online dating, there are many diverse experiences missing, however, what has been shared here will sound and feel familiar regardless of perceived differences.
Enormous thanks to my wonderful interviewees - every one of them so willing to share their experiences of online dating. We experiences from teens to 70s!
Evil and hate stick with you, but love sticks with you even more
The pressure to perform, the pressure to provide means fathers can be under extraordinary pressure, add to this being a farmer and the income being dependent on the cycles of nature and it is clear to see the repercussions of the drought are not likely to go away quickly. Therefore supporting our farmers to take a realistic look at work practices and supporting them to the next step is part of a whole family approach.
Today Chris Iffland tells us first hand what life is like as a 5th generation farmer, Neil McWhannell talks about the Rotary Club of Wahroonga initiative to support the farmers, Hugh Burne our second farmer tells us about some of the infrastructure he has put in place that is supporting both his farm and his neighbours premises. Lastly United Tradies Chris Saville will be sharing his new project and helping our farmer Chris on the farm!
Robyn Jones, Tony Sambell and Stephen Gammack were my guests this week to talk about toxic masculinity. What was clear by the end of this show is this is a conversation that goes beyond gender and is about the small things we brush over, the small elements of abuse we ignore till they become normalised and accept till we have an 'extreme' case which ends up being front page news. All too often it them becomes a 'gender' issue with two sides drawn and no true way forward. There has to be a better and more loving way to be with each other.
I feel very honoured to have been able to facilitate this show.
Where does abuse come from? Is it always someone else's problem or are there parts of our own lives that could be contributing to the global picture because we are taking a level of normal that is not normal at all and yet we are not calling it out for fear of standing out?
This episode is a bit of soul searching and asks us all to consider the impact of what we did and what we do.
Check this out - the latest show with Jean Gamble talking about relationship breakdowns. It is full of examples to bring understanding of how to deal with the hurts we feel when we are not understood and practical ways to ensure we do not carry those hurts from one relationship to another.
Key points to remember -
No-one wins when we go into naming, shaming and blaming
Decency must be the bedrock for the way we behave in every interaction.
There are four parts to this episode and each gives an insight into the man we see on our screens and hear through our radios. Rob Carlton is an Logie Award winning actor, a writer, a story teller but in our interview, her is simply a man and a father who talks about the importance of sensitivity in men and decency and respect in sport.
We have such a long way to go in this respect in life, men still feel they will not get work if they share how they are feeling yet the pressure of not sharing how they are feeling can sometimes have irreversible results.
Do we have a picture of what intimacy is or isn't? Do we measure how intimate we are with different people depending on their relationship with us? "Of course!" I may hear you say but I would like you to suspend that indignation for an hour and listen to us unpack the possibility that we may have more to learn and understand about intimacy and it is so much more that sexual intimacy.
Lucy Dahill is the presenter of Stay in the Loop with Lucy, she has a passion for offering people the platform to share their voice. Young, old or somewhere in between we all have wisdom to share if we trust our hearts over our heads.