Caring for someone when they are coming to the end of their life can be an opportunity for life to slow down. Meet Melinda and Sally as they walk us through the last few months of life with the inimitable Phillip Hills. Melinda learnt to slow down, ask for support and build a connection that means Phillip is felt, even though he has passed.
If you would be interested in listening to my interview with Phillip about writing his book and hiding behind a mask of humour - check it out here
If you would like to buy his book, then please order it online or ask your local book store or library to order it for you
Meet Michelle who had a 2 month whirlwind from diagnosis to major surgery and how she made the whole experience one that was flipped from being traumatic to deeply healing. For Michelle - she felt 'these things don't just happen'. She learnt how to ask for help and accept support. Paying attention to the detail had major impact in unexpected areas. For example, having a seat in the shower was not only a great support, but actually "really lovely!"
It was not about just going from a to B but how you go from A to B
When you are in the middle of an eating disorder, be that as a lived experience person or as a family member, it can feel like there is no way out. Meet Kylie who experienced severe Anorexia Nervosa and has found a way to not have that experience as defining her or any part of her day-today living now.
If you need support, please do not hesitate to contact some of the amazing support services across the globe.
Support services in Australia include
The Butterfly Foundation
A comprehensive website with support for people with eating disorders, body image concerns and their families and practitioners. Support includes details for nationwide practitioners, a National Helpline on 1800 33 4673. and online chat service
Eating Disorder Families Australia
A great resource for parents and families
National Eating Disorders Collaborative
The National Eating Disorder Collaboration is a great resource for up-to-date information and research on eating disorders. It also provides a list of state-by-state treatment services for inpatient, outpatient and community support programs in their ‘Services and Support Organisations’ section.
EDBI (Eating Disorders and Body Image)
If you are interested in the research around eating disorders and body image (including my own!) please check out the
EDBI site Western Sydney University
A big topic and a potentially triggering question. I could go to the dictionary definition of bullying but why…. it described a set of behaviours that are already embedded and have become ‘repeated targeting’. Yet have we accepted low level forms of bullying as normal interaction between people to the point that we now don’t even call it bullying but relationships and or family dynamics?
Read more on this topic on Back to Basics Parenting and watch out for an article in the Hornsby Kuring-gai Post
We want to be seen, heard and valued. We all need to be part of that movement
Why is it so natural to go into comparison? Are we measured from such an early age that we have forgotten how to adore each other just for being who we are rather than for what we did or achieved?
Check our the latest audio from Annette Baker and Gabrielle Caplice which looks at why comparison is so prevalent and taking personal responsibility to address it in our own lives so we can bring awareness to it and - dare I say - stop it in all our lives.
Everyone wants to be loved, everyone wants to be adored
The year 7-9 Community Problem Solving Team from Ravenswood Girls School have, once again, offered a unique insight into the challenges of Neurodiversity in a school environment. Abi, Millie, Mia and Grace talk us through their project and what their team of 11 have done for the competition. Unravelling Uniqueness is a wonderful celebration of how we can celebrate neurodiversity.
Have you considered how often we hide who we truly are behind a mask of humour? Could it be that this strategic manoeuvre to keep ourselves safe is what locks us away to be even more fearful of being ourselves in the world? Allow me to introduce Philip Hills to you - you will get to know him better when he publishes his book but till then... a sneak preview to the process of writing a book when you are trying to capture your life - and then some. I met Philip at a party... he stole my tiara... I don't think I have said that about anyone else but it was a moment that resulted in the most engaging conversation over dinner. How could I keep that opportunity to just me, when I have the opportunity to share Philip with all of you.
This interview showed me, once again, how humour can be a mask we wear that hides who we truly are and how complicated it can then be to find ourselves again behind that mask when life calls us to be more true to the gem we always were
This is a job the majority of us do without being paid, yet as a profession it is in the bracket of 'unskilled labour'. There is a clear distinction in the job market between jobs that seems to reflect on the way we pay people and the value others place on taking those roles as careers. Yet where would we be if we didn't have that support in our lives? There is a very particular skill brought to cleaning that leaves an imprint in the home which forms the foundation for how we live and move in that space.
After spending time with Mary-Louise, June and Michael it is clear we have this all wrong and it has certainly changed the way I clean my home.
After the last post on death and dying - I felt there was an important question to ask - do we know how to live?! Let's be honest, there are handbooks for everything and most of them tell us we are have much to learn, so when Cynthia Hickman a psychotherapist wrote a 'Handbook for Being Human' I was intrigued. My interview with Cynthia talks to how we grow up in this world without buying into the fear factor that is fed to us left, right, centre, up and down!
We have so many pictures of death and dying. What has transpired from these interviews is the way we can reduce those we deeply love to the physical form they have held in our lives and then miss out on the blessing of what is available after they pass.
So should we be questioning our use of the words we use around death and dying? For example, have we really 'lost' a loved one like we might lose a ring or a possession, or can we not 'lose' what was never ours to own in the first place?
Lucy Dahill is the presenter of Stay in the Loop with Lucy, she has a passion for offering people the platform to share their voice. Young, old or somewhere in between we all have wisdom to share if we trust our hearts over our heads.