Parents are the people children are supposed to be able to trust the most not to hurt them and yet all too often they are the people whose behaviour causes the deepest wounds that can take years to heal. Mary Jo McVeigh knows this all too well. She is the CEO and founder of Cara House in Sydney, a place where children, parents and families are offered space to heal from the impacts of trauma and abuse. Mary Jo is such a bright, honest and engaging woman and this clearly comes across in this interview. This could have been a hard interview to do or a hard interview to listen to but I can only tell you it is filled with honesty, love and some amazing tips for us as parents and engaged members of our community. It takes a village to raise a child and therefore the more responsible and accountable we can each be for what we bring to our own lives the more we can offer those around us.
Elkan Spiller has brought us a gem of a film in 'L'Chaim to Life!'. It is a touching, witty and haunting documentary about his cousin Chaim Lubelski, a true 'Mench', and how war affects us from one generation to another "It is like a big cloud that hangs over us" and is logical for those who experienced the trauma first hand but the consequences are clearly thrown to the next generation as their expression of love and ability to speak honestly about the abuse that was experienced is measured by what keeps them safe from their continuing perceived danger.
The film asks us to question the deeper intergenerational effect of war and shows how one man found that his purpose at that time in his life was to offer a reflection of love to his mother and others who had experienced such hate and pain. There is much we can learn from Chaim and it is easy to understand why Elkan felt it was part of his life’s purpose to bring this story to a wider audience.
What makes someone want to push themselves beyond normal endurance, particularly when you have broken your neck? That is one of the questions that really stayed with me whilst interviewing Steve Plain who is in the middle of Project 7 in 4 - a plan to climb the 7 summits on 7 continents in 4 months - a world record. We talk to Chris Peck, the General Manager, Lifesaving and Training Surf Lifesaving Western Australia about the critical support Steve received in the water that most likely influenced his outcomes.
Do we have a picture of what intimacy is or isn't? Do we measure how intimate we are with different people depending on their relationship with us? "Of course!" I may hear you say but I would like you to suspend that indignation for an hour and listen to us unpack the possibility that we may have more to learn and understand about intimacy and it is so much more that sexual intimacy.
If you are a few weeks in to a new resolution or commitment to change a pattern of behaviour you want to embrace and are struggling to let go of the old patterns, or perhaps you have people of any age in your life who have challenging or unwanted behaviours that are impacting on you, then this is the show for you! Tanya Curtis a Behavioural Specialist talks to Lucy Dahill about lasting behaviour change. Whether you are a parent or not, this episode will change the way you view your own behaviour as well as the behaviour of those around you.
Michael Crawford and Evan Burrell joins Lucy Dahill in the 2HHH studios to talk about the magic of Christmas and the gift of giving. In a time-poor and distraction-rich world your presence, your love and your connection are the greatest gifts you can offer another.
Has the art of appreciation been reduced to a functional necessity as opposed to a foundational part of our day to day? Hear from a number of people who have considered how this simple choice to appreciate who they are and what they bring in life changes things on a profound level.
It only takes one person to connect with another person and to have an impulse to support a wider community for magic to happen. The Friends of Mount Colah community group have done just that! Listen to Jan Forbes and Mariko Smith share how they participate in a community group with no other purpose that to close a gap which left vulnerable people feeling alone. Find out how you can get involved in local events or set up a community group in your local area.
Rotary International do an enormous amount of work, both nationally and internationally. Listen to some of the magic these dedicated individuals are able to do when they work as a team for service above self. Today you will hear from Ian Stuart from the Rotary Club of Turramurra, Bobby Holder from the Rotary Club of Hornsby and Ian Cameron from the Rotary Club of Wahroonga. Each offer a snapshot of the work they do for and with their local communities as well as the work they do internationally. You will hear more shows on Rotary in the future as it is not possible to cover all they do in one show.
I was joined in the studio today by Peter Matthews School Captain and Lachlan Walker, Social Justice Prefect from White Ribbon School - Knox Grammar, and Tadhg Richards and Hunter Meaney School Captains from Turramurra High School. I really appreciated how they turned the statistics into practical and meaningful opportunities for young people to be the change they want to see in their world. I will let their words speak for themselves.
Peter - You can talk about it as much as you like but you have to act. If you are not comfortable with the conversation going on around you stand up to and raise the standard.
Lachlan - Don't wait for another to stand up, be the one person, be the change and others will follow
Tadhg - Use your gifts and talents to speak up - paint, write, sing, all forms will make a difference and your expression is needed.
Hunter - have that conversation, don't go into hushed tones, that way people will feel a level of accountability for what they are doing behind closed doors.
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Lucy Dahill is the presenter of Stay in the Loop with Lucy, she has a passion for offering people the platform to share their voice. Young, old or somewhere in between we all have wisdom to share if we trust our hearts over our heads.