How much does shame influence the decisions we make and the behaviours we have taken as our normal? Jean Gamble talks us through shame and regret and teases out the different types of shame - toxic, functional and vicarious shame. What if there is a way to re-frame our thinking? Get snug as a bug in a rug and perhaps a pen and paper - you may want to take notes!
The show today is an up close and personal with study – the stress, the anxiety, the need – and perhaps most importantly, the why. A fundamental question has to be why are we studying and who are we studying for? If we have a family or are studying and working full or part time there are challenges inherent in juggling those commitments and responsibilities. There is a level of support we need to bring to ourselves in order to offer the space and perspective to work effectively without overriding the communication from our bodies and making ourselves sick. There is nothing intelligent about choosing dysfunctional behaviours! Join Lucy as she shares some of the things she learnt the hard way!
Do we consider that we can all write? Good speakers rarely consider those skills can be transferred to the page, and therefore there is an element of mastery that is needed that goes way beyond the need to be the best. My guests in the studio are Lydia Hamilton and Mandy Newman, the wonders behind Literary Giants a project with a mission to improve the quality and standard of writing around the world. This show will be relevant for teachers, parents and students themselves. How willing are we to be the change we want to see in our expression and equipping our next generation to be critical thinkers?
Imagine starting life at a time where women were second class citizens and you were not allowed to work once you got married... that was how Jo Karaolis started her life. Somewhere along the line, she knew that love is an underrated commodity yet it is the foundation of who we are, where we come from and what we all want. Jo brought the simplicity of this knowing to all her jobs but culminating in her last job as Principle of St Lucy's School in Wahroonga. A school for children with disabilities. In this interview she shares the story of her life and how she found herself learning so much from her students along the way. This will inspire teachers, parents and anyone who would like to empower children to be the engaged, responsible and accountable adults they are all capable of being.
Check this out - the latest show with Jean Gamble talking about relationship breakdowns. It is full of examples to bring understanding of how to deal with the hurts we feel when we are not understood and practical ways to ensure we do not carry those hurts from one relationship to another.
Key points to remember -
No-one wins when we go into naming, shaming and blaming
Decency must be the bedrock for the way we behave in every interaction.
Parents play a vital role in safe party practices for teenagers growing up from offering a safe space for teenagers to learn how to party safely but also how to offer the boundaries that they may not feel strong enough to make for themselves. Tenee Arthur, Jessica Curran and Nathalia Bennet represented the Mount St Benedict College Future Problem Solving team who are just about to head to Wisconsin in the USA for the International Conference.
There are some great tips offered by students who know first hand the support they need to be safe
Same-sex couples can now marry - yes, it was voted on by the Australian people, it was voted on by our parliament - both houses and the majority have said a thumbs up to #loveislove. But what is the journey to get there? What about those who didn't vote yes? Gabrielle Caplice and Annette Baker join me in the studio to share what their young lives were like and how it felt for the validity of relationships like theirs to be the subject of nationwide discussion. This is an up close and personal interview which will be a wonderful support to anyone who is open to bringing more understanding to loving relationships. They share what it feels like to not fit 'the picture' of what we are brought up to believe a relationship is supposed to look like.
Elkan Spiller has brought us a gem of a film in 'L'Chaim to Life!'. It is a touching, witty and haunting documentary about his cousin Chaim Lubelski, a true 'Mench', and how war affects us from one generation to another "It is like a big cloud that hangs over us" and is logical for those who experienced the trauma first hand but the consequences are clearly thrown to the next generation as their expression of love and ability to speak honestly about the abuse that was experienced is measured by what keeps them safe from their continuing perceived danger.
The film asks us to question the deeper intergenerational effect of war and shows how one man found that his purpose at that time in his life was to offer a reflection of love to his mother and others who had experienced such hate and pain. There is much we can learn from Chaim and it is easy to understand why Elkan felt it was part of his life’s purpose to bring this story to a wider audience.
Do we have a picture of what intimacy is or isn't? Do we measure how intimate we are with different people depending on their relationship with us? "Of course!" I may hear you say but I would like you to suspend that indignation for an hour and listen to us unpack the possibility that we may have more to learn and understand about intimacy and it is so much more that sexual intimacy.
Lucy Dahill is the presenter of Stay in the Loop with Lucy, she has a passion for offering people the platform to share their voice. Young, old or somewhere in between we all have wisdom to share if we trust our hearts over our heads.