Have you considered how often we hide who we truly are behind a mask of humour? Could it be that this strategic manoeuvre to keep ourselves safe is what locks us away to be even more fearful of being ourselves in the world? Allow me to introduce Philip Hills to you - you will get to know him better when he publishes his book but till then... a sneak preview to the process of writing a book when you are trying to capture your life - and then some. I met Philip at a party... he stole my tiara... I don't think I have said that about anyone else but it was a moment that resulted in the most engaging conversation over dinner. How could I keep that opportunity to just me, when I have the opportunity to share Philip with all of you.
This interview showed me, once again, how humour can be a mask we wear that hides who we truly are and how complicated it can then be to find ourselves again behind that mask when life calls us to be more true to the gem we always were
This is a job the majority of us do without being paid, yet as a profession it is in the bracket of 'unskilled labour'. There is a clear distinction in the job market between jobs that seems to reflect on the way we pay people and the value others place on taking those roles as careers. Yet where would we be if we didn't have that support in our lives? There is a very particular skill brought to cleaning that leaves an imprint in the home which forms the foundation for how we live and move in that space.
After spending time with Mary-Louise, June and Michael it is clear we have this all wrong and it has certainly changed the way I clean my home.
After the last post on death and dying - I felt there was an important question to ask - do we know how to live?! Let's be honest, there are handbooks for everything and most of them tell us we are have much to learn, so when Cynthia Hickman a psychotherapist wrote a 'Handbook for Being Human' I was intrigued. My interview with Cynthia talks to how we grow up in this world without buying into the fear factor that is fed to us left, right, centre, up and down!
We have so many pictures of death and dying. What has transpired from these interviews is the way we can reduce those we deeply love to the physical form they have held in our lives and then miss out on the blessing of what is available after they pass.
So should we be questioning our use of the words we use around death and dying? For example, have we really 'lost' a loved one like we might lose a ring or a possession, or can we not 'lose' what was never ours to own in the first place?
This blog is a collation of individual interviews - please click the read more below to access them
Online dating has been around for more than 20 years, but has exploded in recent years and potentially become a necessity due to a pesky virus that has way too many living in silos. This has stopped one of the most natural processes from taking place. Coming together and meeting new people. Where has all the dating gone? Now, it seemed, life was more about ticking boxes and working out what you wanted, what you liked and didn't like, and finding someone who fitted that picture. The algorithm would do all the hard work for you!
But it seems it is not quite that simple. Here you will find a series of interviews that share the varied experiences that come from online dating. The online-dating Compendium - Our Compendium of Love.
Clearly this is but a peek into the world of online dating, there are many diverse experiences missing, however, what has been shared here will sound and feel familiar regardless of perceived differences.
Enormous thanks to my wonderful interviewees - every one of them so willing to share their experiences of online dating. We experiences from teens to 70s!
Dating seems to have changed. It is not just about the restrictions and the need for more online interaction, even before that, there was a sense that you shouldn't commit to a relationship too early because we might miss out on something 'better'. That better seems to mean playing the field but always searching for 'the one'. Pictures galore of what we think 'the one' is and all the while there is no true connection being looked for or found.
This is a two part blog on relationships and exclusivity. I am starting with exclusivity because that is what triggered the realisation for me that dating had changed, and my interest to discover in the way we date now.
What I have discovered is a sense that there is a push-pull between the connection we are looking for and the fear of being alone that makes us accept the destructive games and 'settle' for a crumb of attention rather than the connection we truly know we all want and deserve.
I love how these women share some top tips for setting standards and knowing your self-worth way before you meet someone.
Meet Hannah, Marika, Shelley and Rosie. 4 slightly different perspectives.
The confusion and unease around initial changes to work practices meant these women had to address the stress and reassess how to make decisions. There are also some amazing insights for raising girls in the future - if we can show our girls that you are who you are in your essence and that can't be defined or boxed (by a profession or a title) they are then prepared for everything that comes.
The more I kept things simple, the simpler the decisions became
Parents can be full of helpful advice, yet it can get heard by adolescents as criticism. Listen to Gabe, Annette and Lucy for some insights into how we develop the way we hear words and how intention and reception can be very different. This two part series is an incredible opportunity to consider the impact of the way we communicate in relationships, in our families. Gabrielle Caplice, Annette Baker and Lucy Dahill consider what criticism looks, sounds and feels like and how that plays out for children, teens and adults alike.
Lucy Dahill is the presenter of Stay in the Loop with Lucy, she has a passion for offering people the platform to share their voice. Young, old or somewhere in between we all have wisdom to share if we trust our hearts over our heads.