Parents are the people children are supposed to be able to trust the most not to hurt them and yet all too often they are the people whose behaviour causes the deepest wounds that can take years to heal. Mary Jo McVeigh knows this all too well. She is the CEO and founder of Cara House in Sydney, a place where children, parents and families are offered space to heal from the impacts of trauma and abuse. Mary Jo is such a bright, honest and engaging woman and this clearly comes across in this interview. This could have been a hard interview to do or a hard interview to listen to but I can only tell you it is filled with honesty, love and some amazing tips for us as parents and engaged members of our community. It takes a village to raise a child and therefore the more responsible and accountable we can each be for what we bring to our own lives the more we can offer those around us.
Elkan Spiller has brought us a gem of a film in 'L'Chaim to Life!'. It is a touching, witty and haunting documentary about his cousin Chaim Lubelski, a true 'Mench', and how war affects us from one generation to another "It is like a big cloud that hangs over us" and is logical for those who experienced the trauma first hand but the consequences are clearly thrown to the next generation as their expression of love and ability to speak honestly about the abuse that was experienced is measured by what keeps them safe from their continuing perceived danger.
The film asks us to question the deeper intergenerational effect of war and shows how one man found that his purpose at that time in his life was to offer a reflection of love to his mother and others who had experienced such hate and pain. There is much we can learn from Chaim and it is easy to understand why Elkan felt it was part of his life’s purpose to bring this story to a wider audience.
If you are a few weeks in to a new resolution or commitment to change a pattern of behaviour you want to embrace and are struggling to let go of the old patterns, or perhaps you have people of any age in your life who have challenging or unwanted behaviours that are impacting on you, then this is the show for you! Tanya Curtis a Behavioural Specialist talks to Lucy Dahill about lasting behaviour change. Whether you are a parent or not, this episode will change the way you view your own behaviour as well as the behaviour of those around you.
Has the art of appreciation been reduced to a functional necessity as opposed to a foundational part of our day to day? Hear from a number of people who have considered how this simple choice to appreciate who they are and what they bring in life changes things on a profound level.
I was joined in the studio today by Peter Matthews School Captain and Lachlan Walker, Social Justice Prefect from White Ribbon School - Knox Grammar, and Tadhg Richards and Hunter Meaney School Captains from Turramurra High School. I really appreciated how they turned the statistics into practical and meaningful opportunities for young people to be the change they want to see in their world. I will let their words speak for themselves.
Peter - You can talk about it as much as you like but you have to act. If you are not comfortable with the conversation going on around you stand up to and raise the standard.
Lachlan - Don't wait for another to stand up, be the one person, be the change and others will follow
Tadhg - Use your gifts and talents to speak up - paint, write, sing, all forms will make a difference and your expression is needed.
Hunter - have that conversation, don't go into hushed tones, that way people will feel a level of accountability for what they are doing behind closed doors.
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With such a large increase in stories about sexual, verbal, emotional and financial abuse, with bullying growing as an issue faced by our youth and adults alike, I couldn't hold this episode back any longer. Today my guests are Annette baker and Gabe Caplice who share with us some of the insights they have gleaned from their years of couples and individual counselling.
There is a clear knowing for Jeff Garland that it is possible to go back to work after post traumatic stress leave because he did it. He now knows there are some safeguards that need to be in place and some logical support from superiors that could alleviate much of the trauma experienced by police officers and frontline workers.
This week’s show on Stay in the Loop with Lucy heads round the world to the UK for a fireside chat with Dragana Brown, a passionate, world affairs and lifestyle commentator with the Huffington Post and someone whose writing always talks about responsibility and accountability for the world we have. In this interview we talk about honesty in politics, in life and its effect on our anxiety levels and health. Dragana questions if we are really ready for truth or if we prefer the less challenging party line. After the news grabbing headline, do we wait around for the unpicking and fact checking or have we moved on with that headline firmly planted in our memories... as fact?!
This week’s show on Stay in the Loop with Lucy is part of a series on lying, today we touch on the integrity in politics and questions if we are viewing politics from the right space. Have we perhaps lost our way when toeing the party line is a non-negotiable and theatre is more important than policy or leading by example when it comes to debating. I cover the Fitzgerald survey and continue to ask why all politicians did not stand up and say 'absolutely, there is no question that I stand by that level of ethics and accountability', should we be concerned that we even have to ask? My guest today is Rebecca Briant, a bright young student who is steady and wise as she leads us through her observations and my buddy in the studio was Austin.
In this episode I have interviews about how men can be a major part of the change in attitudes about women and domestic violence, as well as the Hornsby Ku-ring-gai Womens Shelter, the Soroptomists, and a number of other participants from the 2016 Hornsby Walk the Talk. Also highlighted this week is an interview with Zohara Mendes who spoke about the work she is doing raising awareness for her generation about domestic violence. the wealth of experience and wisdom in our community is evident in these interviews. This is about people who care, sharing how and why they care and being prepared to step outside their comfort to encourage others to do the same.
We can be the change we want to see in the world. Listen out for the interview with Zohara Mendes who I suspect you will hear about in the future. She is a passionate yet unimposing speaker and here talks to me about her work around Domestic Violence.
Lucy Dahill is the presenter of Stay in the Loop with Lucy, she has a passion for offering people the platform to share their voice. Young, old or somewhere in between we all have wisdom to share if we trust our hearts over our heads.