Are we aware of how fear permeates our lives? or is it something that has become so normal that we just take it as part and parcel of who we are? I have been wondering if this pattern of behaviour then leads to us looking the other way with abuse and we then end up with the society we now have where domestic violence is considered part of the fabric of our community, corruption in business and our major institutions is expected, the press control and manipulate through the use of fear, the courts have us living in fear of not being believed.
My guests today are Annette Baker and Gabrielle Caplice and together we look at how fear has become part of the fabric of our upbringing and means we struggle to open ourselves up in relationship. We look at what the impact of that might be and how we can support ourselves and each other to be ok with making mistakes and speaking up in life.
Imagine starting life at a time where women were second class citizens and you were not allowed to work once you got married... that was how Jo Karaolis started her life. Somewhere along the line, she knew that love is an underrated commodity yet it is the foundation of who we are, where we come from and what we all want. Jo brought the simplicity of this knowing to all her jobs but culminating in her last job as Principle of St Lucy's School in Wahroonga. A school for children with disabilities. In this interview she shares the story of her life and how she found herself learning so much from her students along the way. This will inspire teachers, parents and anyone who would like to empower children to be the engaged, responsible and accountable adults they are all capable of being.
2 good falls of rain in 2 years in Gulargambone - "the grass is dead, the stock is gone or in small paddock, it is an eerie look, an eerie feel". Walgatt have been in drought for 6 years - Only 1 crop in 6 years which means low income, no life, no extra fuel, lots of depression due to not being able to provide and produce, suicide. The worst drought in NSW in 100 years.
Yet this is not our backyard so why should a local radio station in Sydney pay attention? ... Because we are each others brothers and sisters, because farmers are the food bowl of Australia and because we must if we are to avert one of the primary Australian industries from being undervalued and abused.
My guest is Carolyn Lyons OAM shares how city dwellers could make space to understand "the great diversity, the great pain, the great triumphs that farmers go through" so we can engage our politicians and policy makers, shop for the food that is on our table in a responsible way and pay attention to the conversations and policies we may have glanced over before our eyes were opened.
"We must remember the word community - the coming together of people with like mind"
If you think we have managed to open a conversation then please share with farmers so they know we care and with politicians, family and friends so we can each make a difference to the people who have dedicated themselves to sustain an industry which has long been ignored.
"Let's make agriculture sexy - that would help put us higher up the agenda"
Farmers on the land are very simple rain makes them smile
What do we mean when we say we love unconditionally? Do we have conditions, expectations around our love with and for another? Would we like to change just one or two things about our friends or partner?
If we start from the Ageless Wisdom premiss that Love is who we are, it is what we are made of and where we are from then we can ask whether we are beings of love or beings of going.
Today we look at the fullness of the word Love, we consider it alongside, harmony, truth, being nice, being consistent and how to build an openness to consider love in our own lives and bodies.
Imagine if there was a way to love and be loved that was so simple and normal that it was actually harder work not to Love in that way. In a world where Connection and Love seem to be what we all want but what we don't seem to achieve check out the latest episode from Stay in the Loop with Lucy. Can we be people who choose to see below the surface and invest in relationships and Love.
Check this out - the latest show with Jean Gamble talking about relationship breakdowns. It is full of examples to bring understanding of how to deal with the hurts we feel when we are not understood and practical ways to ensure we do not carry those hurts from one relationship to another.
Key points to remember -
No-one wins when we go into naming, shaming and blaming
Decency must be the bedrock for the way we behave in every interaction.
Parents play a vital role in safe party practices for teenagers growing up from offering a safe space for teenagers to learn how to party safely but also how to offer the boundaries that they may not feel strong enough to make for themselves. Tenee Arthur, Jessica Curran and Nathalia Bennet represented the Mount St Benedict College Future Problem Solving team who are just about to head to Wisconsin in the USA for the International Conference.
There are some great tips offered by students who know first hand the support they need to be safe
Same-sex couples can now marry - yes, it was voted on by the Australian people, it was voted on by our parliament - both houses and the majority have said a thumbs up to #loveislove. But what is the journey to get there? What about those who didn't vote yes? Gabrielle Caplice and Annette Baker join me in the studio to share what their young lives were like and how it felt for the validity of relationships like theirs to be the subject of nationwide discussion. This is an up close and personal interview which will be a wonderful support to anyone who is open to bringing more understanding to loving relationships. They share what it feels like to not fit 'the picture' of what we are brought up to believe a relationship is supposed to look like.
4 people share their relationships with God reflecting 4 religions. Is there one path to God or are we all held in a body of Love, the body of the Universe, the body of God and this is the source we are all feeling and responding to?
It has taken me many years to say the word God without feeling an awkwardness around it, without feeling like there was an apology for mentioning the word. So it was a breath of fresh air to talk to these people and contemplate a relationship what a relationship with God might look, feel and sound like and hear how people came to that relationship in their lives.
One thing is for certain, we need to Be the change we want to see in the world, everything matters to someone somewhere and that someone starts with us.
So thank you Andrew Starr, Wayne Zwar, Nasrin Azizi and Liane Mandalis,
Elkan Spiller has brought us a gem of a film in 'L'Chaim to Life!'. It is a touching, witty and haunting documentary about his cousin Chaim Lubelski, a true 'Mench', and how war affects us from one generation to another "It is like a big cloud that hangs over us" and is logical for those who experienced the trauma first hand but the consequences are clearly thrown to the next generation as their expression of love and ability to speak honestly about the abuse that was experienced is measured by what keeps them safe from their continuing perceived danger.
The film asks us to question the deeper intergenerational effect of war and shows how one man found that his purpose at that time in his life was to offer a reflection of love to his mother and others who had experienced such hate and pain. There is much we can learn from Chaim and it is easy to understand why Elkan felt it was part of his life’s purpose to bring this story to a wider audience.
Lucy Dahill is the presenter of Stay in the Loop with Lucy, she has a passion for offering people the platform to share their voice. Young, old or somewhere in between we all have wisdom to share if we trust our hearts over our heads.