Be You - no-one does 'you' better than you.
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There were 2 great speakers from Batyr, Carli Freiberg and Michael Gentin. Students found it very supportive to hear from young people who have been through major mental health issues and to hear how they had come out the other side.
The boys in the studio could really relate to Carli and the pressure of her high achieving education. All of the boys separately shared how important they found her presentation and that it would support them in the years to come.
It can be really hard explaining depression to someone who doesn't understand. You feel guilty for having depression
The key phrase that Carli shared was HOPE Hold On Pain Ends
The pressure to do well can contribute to mental health issues
Michael was the other speaker. Rohit really connected with his experience of making making new friends, remembering the change from primary to secondary school as an example... Michael struggled with a move from another country, his story was really personal and took us through a journey of coping and not coping mechanisms which finally led to hitting rock bottom where he promised his family that he would fight really hard to choose life and coined the phrase...Because I said I would.
The boys were struck by and keen to remember...
Fall down 7 times Get up 8
The boys in the studio understood that the expression was a gem and related it to soccer games, the HSC or their own outlook on life - never give up.
Giving up is never the answer - remember the ripple effect and how you can make it positive
The panel were a big hit - having different opinions - each comment building on the other offering students the wealth of experience from a practical experence laden panel.
They enjoyed having Youth Liaison Officer Senior Constable Stefanie Murray there to say the police are not just there to arrest you but actually to ensure you are safe.
Rob O'Leary reminded them that there are so many people out there ready and willing to help you.
Danni McClelland from KYDS shared that when people speak up about having mental health problems then we have an opportunity to support them. She also offered great insights into labelling illnesses such as bi-polar.
Dr Philip Tam shared that you can't read someone's mind or feel what they feel, so it is sometimes hard to understand. It is not straightforward like diabetes. Every one is unique, so the solution is not a one size fits all approach.
Dr Jackie Chapman answered a question about confidentiality - If someone is in danger of harming themselves or another then confidentiality needs to be broken but very often it is discussed with the young person first. There are ways you can talk with the doctor and then discuss what you can share with your parents rather than block them out. This makes for a more supportive structure around the young person.
Carli Freiburg extended on her talk and joined in the conversation around snitching and stigma.
Snitching - not always a bad thing
Anshul asked the question at the forum so we had to include it here...where does snitching fit into support?
If you love someone you would put their support above your fear of not being loved but always get support to make this decision.
At a boys school - you just don't talk about feelings
Stigma and other points to consider
We are being programed to look at life in hashtags because of social media - labelling people and situations so quickly. Yet this adds to the issue of stigma.
Identifying mental health within one sweeping judgement.
Talk is not cheap - the consequence of this judgement can have far reaching consequences and needs to be addressed.
Battery phrase of the day - Look Listen Talk and Seek Help.
Mental ill health is as normal as physical illhealth and the same attention and understanding should be applied to both.
We need to talk how we are living and what we are taking as normal
Self Care for good mental health
If we are desperate for love we are more likely to take part in risky behaviour in order to get it. Build a level of love for yourself that you do not compromise
Hornsby Council Youth Services
Youth Beyond Blue
Kids Helpline 1800 55 1800
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Lucy Dahill is the presenter of Stay in the Loop with Lucy, she has a passion for offering people the platform to share their voice. Young, old or somewhere in between we all have wisdom to share if we trust our hearts over our heads.